In this post I will explain exactly why I am not sending my kids to school and how I plan to educate them instead. This is not a post to persuade you—just my personal opinion, based on what I believe children truly need.
School for many of us was a non-negotiable part of growing up. A mandatory obligation we rarely questioned. But having gone through it myself, I can’t help but reflect on the false sense of security it instilled in me.
The truth is, the education system isn’t as simple or beneficial as it’s often made out to be.
It was designed by those in power to produce obedient workers. Do what you have been told and you will be rewarded, Disobey those rules you will be punished.
1) The Origin Of Public Education: A System Build For Uniformity
Before 1870 children were educated informally—at home, in religious schools or not at all. It was in this time that the elementary education act marked the beginning of involvement in education. This was mainly to make children “resourceful” and compliant especially for the industrial workforce.
It wasn’t until 1880 it was mandatory for children aged 5 to 10 to attend school. The aim wasn’t to just teach literacy but moral discipline and social obedience. Conditioning children to listen and obey.
By emphasising drills, punctuality and rote memorisation—skills favored more in factories and the military—society thought this approach would reduce crime. They aimed to install obedience and create an orderly industrious lower class.
Class Based Control & Secularisation
Public education helped create the class system. Children were sorted early based on their status—grammar schools were for the “clever” (middle class) while working-class children were pushed into manual trades.
In the 20th century things were taken in further control as religious instruction was diluted and a national curriculum was imposed. By 1988 Parents had little not no input on what their children were taught.
So, why does this matter now?
2) The Difference In Today’s Society — The changes and Adaptations.
The difference is we don’t live in a society that needs to train obedient workers—we need free thinkers and strong believers.
Contradictory to what was a couple hundred years ago, today’s society needs creativity, conviction and moral clarity. Society has kept this outdated education system in place—not because it works but because it benefits those in power. And who better to teach compliance to but the vulnerability of young children who don’t know any better.
Those in power understand that it is easier to control subservient children. children who are raised by strangers to accept authority without question, to conform without understanding, and to follow the crowd instead of their conscious. They become adults who are likely to comply and fear instead of challenge.
My Own Experience
school I remember not for being educational but restricting, consuming my time and energy.
I was told by teachers I couldn’t use the toilet because I “should have gone on break” as if my body needed to fit a schedule. I was placed in a special group because I was “behind” instead of being supported in a way that respected my pace.
When children asked the most honest questions ” How will this help me in real life”—teachers didn’t answer. They got frustrated or dismissed us altogether.
3) The New Curriculum: Hidden Agendas, lost Foundations
Unlike the 19th century, education at least included clear morals. These morals were faith, discipline, responsibility, and service. Today’s schools push ideologies like LGBTQ+ identity, gender theory, and political correctness.
Children are encouraged to question their biology, but never to question the system promoting these ideas?
This isn’t education, it’s conditioning.
Not sending my kids to school was a conscious decision I choose to implement for the future. It’s not an act of isolation but one of protection and restoration. They deserve to grow in an environment that values truth, tradition, and nature—not one that confuses identity and rewrites moral foundations.
By stepping outside the system that has lost it’s way, they gain clarity about what it means to live with conviction in a generation clouded by confusion.
4) A Cultural Fear: Bullying and Isolation
To Make things worse, the social environment for schools is often toxic. Studies show that over 85 to 90 percent of all students in school have either reported being bullied, bullying others or being a bystander.
This only created a fearful environment for children—one that promotes loneliness, encourages isolation and focus them to suppress their true selves. Many end up hiding and lying to adults and even their own parents just to survive the day.
Yet, those who are causing the harm, as misguided and broken as they may be get away with it. Protected by the silence of overwhelmed staff and a system that’s focused on control than care.
In the end it’s not just education that’s missing—its safety, Trust and the freedom to grow.
By not sending my kids to school they can return to an education that encourages:
- A mind that can think independently
- A heart that can discern the truth
- A soul that knows its eternal purpose
3) So, Why Do We Still Comply?
Even if we knew how damaging and outdated the education system is, we still choose to send our children there. Parents face unavailability and lack the knowledge to do anything about it.
Time and Energy
The majority of parents are constantly Stretched thin trying to provide an income and financially support their family. And this isn’t the problem. With jobs to hold and bills to pay school becomes a form of childcare rather than a place of learning.
Status and Pressure
Many families especially culturally have a certain standard and expectation when it comes to their children academically. There is pressure to pursue status—good grades, prestigious degrees, high paying jobs. Parents often fear what others will think if their child doesn’t follow the conventional path.
Cycle of Conformity
For most children school is a part of “life” it’s not a choice. Parents, often unaware of alternatives or are unsure how to do educate differently—follow what they know. The systems continuity is not out of conviction but habit and pressures.
Desperation and Dysfunction
Some kids find school to be a safe heaven from unstable or damaging home environments—and I deeply empathise with that reality. However, this post is for those who do have the means to offer something better: a personalised, value based education rooted in trust, care and purpose.
Final Thoughts
This decision of not sending my kids to school comes from a place of reflection—not rebellion. A decision that me and my partner have made to protect the mind, heart and souls of our future children.
Education should be more than a pile of information delivered. It should shape character, Natural curiosity, anchor children in truth and help them connect to their family.
What are your thought about sending your child to school?
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